There are two types of best friends:
There's the best friend who shares everyday life with you.. You see each other a couple times per week, and talk almost every day, staying up to date and tuned in to every little thing in each other's lives.
And there's the best friend who rarely pops up in your life. You don't often get the chance to spend time together, and your conversations are few and far between. But still, you know deep in your heart that that person will always understand you and be there when you need them most.Aww. Precious, right? There are times when I would probably find those words to be sloppy sentimentalism, if not estrogen-infused mush.
Today, however, it seems that this wisdom is exactly what I needed to hear.
Of course, just about everyone over the age of twelve has known the joys of the bff. And anyone older than twenty has reunited with a childhood buddy and felt the intervening years miraculously slip away to nothing. At any given time, if we are playing our cards right, we usually have a few close friends in each category to bring balance into our lives.
But lately, I have to say, my friendship scales have been a little bit out of whack.
Over the past few years, each for different reasons, my closest, dearest, most trusted friends - the ones who truly get me - have drifted, one by one, from that first category to the second. Where once they were an integral part of my daily life, we now live our lives mostly apart.
Now I'm not necessarily complaining about that. I mean, sure, sometimes I really miss sharing my life with these people and I treasure the memories of those bygone days. But I also acknowledge that when we do manage to connect, our friendships are every bit as alive and rich and magically bff-y as ever.
Maybe even more so.
Maybe the best friendships deepen and intensify when they are stretched across the distance of time and space.
Maybe absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
And maybe, right now, when I am missing my faraway bffs so sharply, is the perfect time to let them know how much they mean to me.
Yep. Just as soon as I finish this important and scientifically valid quiz, that's exactly what I will do.